Top 10 Tips for Bigs With Multiple Littles
It's not easy having more than one little. Bigs struggle to make it work and keep everyone in the family happy. Try these sorority sugar suggestions for getting along, keeping the peace and growing closer as sisters.
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- You are the BIG sister, so take the high road please! Try not to play favorites and always be more mature, giving and patient than your littles.
- Don’t exclude a little from a ‘group activity’ in an obvious way. No one likes to be rejected. It hurts to be left out, especially if you see the photos later on Facebook or Instagram. These days it’s impossible to “hide” your social time. So include each little in your family social activities.
- Spend time as a family, but also one-on-one. It’s ok to have group time and solo time. Being in a pack of three (or more) is not always ideal. A good older sister must carve out some alone time with each little.
- Keep things equal. When you have children one day, you will understand the concept of keeping things equal all the time, at all costs. Start training now with your littles. Equal social time, equal gifts and equal attention. Mastering this talent will come in handy with your future children.
- Never pit one little against the other. Don’t set up a situation that breeds rivalry between sisters. Keep your family neutral and non-competitive. No gossiping or possessiveness please.
- Encourage twin/triplet bonding. If your littles start to like each other more, it will make your life a whole lot easier! It’s preferable if they can enjoy each other with or without you being involved.
- Make sure you have the time. Before you take a 2nd or 3rd little, confirm that you have the time to commit and the personality to juggle the relationships. Be honest with yourself. Don’t feel pressured to take additional littles. Only do so if you can handle the responsibility.
- No secret gossiping allowed. Don’t talk or text behind one little’s back. Secrecy adds to the hurt feelings. Hiding and sneaking around only makes things even worse. Keep your relationships free of any cloak and dagger business.
- Adjust for your little’s unique personalities. If one little is difficult to connect with, plan active time together, so there’s something “to do” rather than just sitting around trying to make small talk. For example - biking, working out, shopping, or crafting together will ease any awkwardness. Littles are not “one size fits all” when it comes to how you interact with them. One may love to sit and chat over coffee, and another may prefer to run a 5k together. Adapt and be flexible!
- Follow the golden rule. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Be the big you would love to have. Be forgiving. Be generous of your time and attention. It will make your littles happy and make you a better person!