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How to be the Best PNM from A to Z

How to be the Best PNM from A to Z

Potential New Members are eager for suggestions on now to handle sorority recruitment, so I have combined my top two "Be the Best PNM from A to Z" posts into one premier list of PNM suggestions. Be an outstanding, amazing, memorable PNM from head to toe ~ inside and out!

♠️  Be an Awesome PNM from A to Z ♠️

A is for Assertive: A successful PNM needs to be outgoing enough to make conversation with every sorority sister she meets. Strive to be an animated, talkative girl who knows how to let her light shine without bragging.

A is for Amazing: Have amazing conversation skills, amazing enthusiasm and amazing spirit. Also accent your best features such as your hair, skin or eyes. Highlight what makes you the most awesome PNM on campus.

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B is for Brave: Knees knock, palms sweat and throats go dry for even the most self assured PNMs. But strong girls know how to overcome their nerves and sparkle bright in spite of their discomfort. They don’t complain about the heat, they smile when their feet are killing them and they carry on bravely when their favorite sorority cuts them after round two. 

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B is for Brilliant: A memorable PNM boasts a strong GPA, academic awards and leadership experience in high school. Be brilliant in the classroom, set goals for your major and have big plans for your future career. A brilliant sense of humor helps too. 

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C is for Character: Despite what Hollywood portrays, sororities are actually looking for PNMs with values, ethics and standards. No chapter wants to pledge a sister who’s going to be on probation and potentially damage the organization's reputation, or worse. Sororities prize girls who are not going to be a standards risk. In these politically sensitive times, chapters are more determined than ever to offer bids to upstanding new members ~ not potential lawsuits.

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C is for Charming: Old fashioned charm counts too! Be sweet, friendly and easy to talk to. A thoughtful PNM compliments the sisters she meets, remembers names and takes a genuine interest in everyone ~ no matter which sorority she's visiting. 

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D is for Delightful: A PNM should be a pleasure to speak with, not a chore. Be entertaining and lively. Focus on being extremely friendly and communicate positive energy during every round. Don't make the sisters struggle to hold a conversation with you. Make it easy for them to offer you a bid. 

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D is for Dazzling: Glow from within, look sisters in the eye, and know when to shine. A dazzling smile goes a long way towards winning hearts. Sparkle, sparkle. 

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E is for Energetic: Low energy is a killer during recruitment. The best PNM is upbeat and enthusiastic, no matter how hot it is, how far she’s walked, or how challenging the conversations are. Exceptional enthusiasm is a must.

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E is for Educated: GPAs count heavily in sorority recruitment. Despite what you see in movies, sororities have serious academic standards and they're looking for PNMs who are committed to their studies. You don’t have to be an A++ student, but good grades, honors, and a solid GPA above the minimum is very desirable.  

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F is for Fabulous: Wear fabulous fashions, make fabulous small talk and have a fabulous personality. Be fantastic in every way and you will increase your odds of bid day success. 

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F is for Fun: At heart, NPC sororities are social organizations. Chapters are looking for fun-loving girls who know how to have a good time in the “right” way (loving sisterhood types ~ not drunken messes.) If you are fun hang out with and fun to talk to, you will be pursued by many sororities. 

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G is for Gracious: Say please and thank you, show appreciation and be polite to everyone involved. A PNM with modesty and manners makes a terrific impression at every house on sorority row. 

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G is for Grounded: A top PNM knows who she is and has her feet planted securely on the ground. Sororities look for well balanced girls who are sane, sensible and down to earth. Leave the drama queen behavior behind in high school. Being a diva is not the way to get a bid.

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H is for Hardworking: Are you a doer? Sororities love PNMs who aren’t afraid to get their hands dirty. They really want don't want to pledge lazy whiners. Every member needs to pitch in and pull her own weight. Balloon arches need to be strung at 5:00am, marathons need to be run, banners need to be painted and girls who are used to doing these things have a strong advantage during recruitment. 

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H is for Happy: Despite the rejections, the awkward chats, the gossip and the sore feet, a dedicated PNM remains cheerful and bubbly every round. Put on a happy face no matter devastated you are about the day's cuts. Everything works out for the best. So stay happy during the process and all will be revealed later on.  

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I is for Immaculate: Strive to be well-groomed from head to toe. Clean, shiny, manicured, natural, appropriate, sharp and properly presented are key words to keep in mind. Everyone is attracted to a PNM who is fresh and polished. 

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I is for Interesting: After talking with hundreds of girls, PNMs starts to sound the same. Make yourself "stand out" in the crowd by sharing interesting facts about yourself. Do interesting things, travel to unusual places and have a list of personal details ready to talk about. A memorable (in a good way) PNM is asked back. 

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J is for Judgmental: Evaluating and judging which chapter is the BEST fit for you personally is an important part of recruitment. It's vital that you make sound judgements based on your head and your heart. Scrutinize each house carefully before making your ranking decisions each day. Choose a sorority you like, not what your mom wants, or what the other PNMs in your group prefer. 

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J is for Joyful: You'd be surprised at how many PNMs are all about stress and negativity during rush week. Instead, radiate a little bliss, and you will magically draw sisters towards you. Joy is contagious! Share as much of it as you can during recruitment.

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K is for Killer: A PNM with killer extracurriculars, killer leadership and a killer personality will rise to the top. A killer body is NOT necessary, but being a killer conversationalist is a huge plus, plus, plus.

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K is for Known: If you know active sisters at your new college, be sure to let them know in advance that you're coming through recruitment. It's to your advantage to be noticed before rush week starts. If you're on their radar ahead of time, the sororities will be on the "look out" for you starting on day one.

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L is for Listener: Actively listen during recruitment, and learn everything you can about each chapter. Don't be blindly swept away by the glitzy decorations at each house and forget to look deeper. Chapters will share what they’re “really” like. It's your job as a PNM to listen. 

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L is for Likable: In it’s simplest form, being likable is the key to many successes in life. If you have a spirit of lighthearted approachability, you will make friends, and be a much sought-after PNM. Show that you genuinely like each sister you speak with, even if it's a challenge with some girls.

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M is for Motivated: Be active ~ not passive. Be confident ~ not reluctant. Show the sorority sisters that you're motivated to take on chapter leadership and ready to excel at greek life. Sisters love "go-getters."

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M is for Multi-Talented: If you can paint lawn letters, choreograph a dance for greek week, lead the intramural volleyball team to victory and manage the chapter finances ~ you will be a highly desired PNM! Share ALL your talents during recruitment and make yourself indispensable to your favorite chapter. 

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N is for Natural: Putting on a fake act is the quickest way to turn off sorority sisters. Greek girls can tell when a PNM is being totally phony. Don’t wear a mask, or try to be something you’re not. Put your best foot forward in an authentic way. 

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N is for Noteworthy: Have something impressive to share. What makes you an original? A notable PNM stands out because of her special life experiences, family, travels, volunteering, accomplishments and one-of-a-kind stories. Make your mark. 

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O is for Observant: Keep your eyes and ears open at all times. Sometimes you must read between the lines to find out what a chapter is really all about. Keen observation of everything from the decor, to the table displays, to the skits and philanthropy presentations is useful. Each element reveals what the sorority is all about. Be a sorority Sherlock Holmes and analyze all the clues.

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O is for Openminded: Being open to unexpected results is a TOP trait to have during recruitment. Put aside all your preconceived notions and accept that things rarely go as planned. Be open to the chapters who invite you back and quickly let go of those who don't. The sororities know more about making membership matches than you do. Keep an open mind.

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P is for Patient: Recruitment is a marathon, not a sprint. It may even take more than one attempt to get a bid. The patient PNM keeps her cool, doesn’t panic and never complains to anyone other than her Rho Gamma/Gamma Chi. If things get rocky, stay the course until the week is over. Don't flee in panic midway through. Finding the right sorority takes perseverance and a steady heart. 

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P is for Prepared: Going into recruitment blind is never a good idea. Do your homework and learn about each sorority on campus. Take a look at each chapter's social media. Read your Recruitment Handbook and take the time to explore what you're getting into. Prepare your mind, your wardrobe and your personal skills for the intense week ahead. 

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Q is for Qualified: Happiness comes from reaching all the requirements needed for recruitment. Instead of fighting the system, a premier PNM will be secure in her accomplishments. It's better to wait until you're truly qualified (minimum GPA for example), than to try recruitment and face painful cuts from most or all of the houses. 

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Q is for Quizzical: Inquiring minds want to know about the 'ins and outs' of each chapter. Ask sharp questions during rounds. Show curiosity about greek life. Sisters want you to ask clever questions, so come prepared with some appropriate sorority life topics to chat about.

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R is for RealisticUnrealistic expectations can break a PNM's heart. Temper your dreams and fantasies with a realistic view of recruitment. It's okay to hope, but remain cautiously optimistic as you go through the week.    

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R is for Radiant: No matter how pretty or plain you are, every PNM should glow from within! Sometimes the quirkiest girls are the most attractive, because they radiate a winning essence. Let your light shine from your heart, your soul and your inner core. 

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S is for Sociable: The #1 plus for a PNM is to be sociable. To make it through recruitment, you must be a ‘people person’ on some level. Hopefully you enjoy sociable group activities. A loner is not really suited to greek life. Make sure you love socializing in a big way. 

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S is for Sweet: Genuine sweetness is sooooo attractive. Along with being stylish, spectacular and stupendous make sure your vibe is just plain sweet. 

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T is for Talkative: Chat, chat, chat, chat. Rush week is all about small talk and never running out of things to say. If you're the talkative type, it's a plus, plus, plus. 

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T is for Tolerant: To live in a sorority house with a large group of girls, you must be tolerant. There are all kinds of sisters in each chapter. So a certain level of acceptance is a must. If you're hyper critical, impatient and extremely judgmental ~ you will have a rough time of it as a PNM and an even tougher time as an active sister. 

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U is for Useful: Get noticed by spotlighting your special talents during recruitment. If you have talents and skills that a chapter needs, you will greatly increase your desirability as a new member. Let sisters know how you can be helpful to a sorority in your own unique way.  

U is for Understanding: A lovable and understanding friend is what every sorority girl is seeking in a new sister. Show that you can listen to others, be a supportive friend and stay loyal to your sisterhood.

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V is for Volunteerism: Giving back to the community is a big part of greek life. A passion for philanthropy and fundraising is a must for PNMs. If you have fundraising and volunteer experience, be sure to share that in your conversations. 

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V is for Vivacious: Be bubbly. Be outgoing. A healthy amount of vim and vigor is needed to stand out from the crowd. Be excited. Without seeming desperate, sororities want to know that you really want to go greek. Show just the right amount of vivaciousness.

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W is for Wise: A wise PNM knows when to accept a bid and when to step away. Give your new sorority a chance to grow on you. They may not be your first choice, but amazing things will happen if you let it. Make wise decisions after the preference round.

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W is for Warm-Hearted: If you can express personal warmth straight from the heart, you will connect on deep level with the sorority sisters. Do you tutor at-risk youth? Do you take care of shelter animals? A sensitive, warm PNM is an ideal candidate for the philanthropy work that all chapters focus on. Show the service side of your personality. 

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X is for Xtra: Be THAT GIRL with something Xtra! Xtra wide smile. Xtra big laugh. Xtra pretty dress. Xtra interesting conversation. Go the Xtra mile to impress and you will help yourself make a dream match.

X is for XOXO: 'Share the love’ during recruitment and don’t be afraid to display a little affection. Approachable body language and a sugary demeanor are big advantages. Major hugs and kisses are waiting for you on bid day.

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Y is for Yummy: Be sweet enough to eat! Yummy looking and yummy acting. Sorority sisters have "rush crushes" on the most desirable PNMs. Strive to be the delicious rush crush of your favorite sister. 

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Y is for Youthful: As a PNM, you don't have to dress or act like your mom to pledge a sorority. It's okay to act your age, and still be well mannered and polite. Combine your youthful exuberance with a touch of class and style.  Act just as you would for an important job interview.

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Z is for Zestful: Express a zest for sorority life, a zest for your university and a zest for living. You can't go wrong. Carpe diem! 

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Z is for Zippy: Feeling energetic is a perfect trait for a PNM. Greek girls need lots of energy. The sisters will sense your eagerness and want to invite you to be a part of their sorority for life!

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